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Post by loyalgurl on Feb 16, 2006 12:02:41 GMT 5.5
Hey guys, Why do people choose love over friendship - even when the basis of love is friendship
- even when friendship has love too
- even when friendship supports when love hurts
- even when love is nothing without friendship??
We would like some real honest answers..... Alongside, your responses to a real life situation : A guy is in love with a girl who is also his best friend. If she refuses (for whatever reasons) , how fair is it for the boy to leave the friendship? How fair is it for the girl to suffer in losing a friend just because he fell in love with her? Speak up folks, your thoughts matter!!
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Post by sm4sks on Feb 16, 2006 14:41:46 GMT 5.5
Love is a genuine feeling, Nothing can match that, Such kind of delightment may not be present in freindship. It is great to be in love and being loved by someone.
When one comes to know that he/she is being loved by someone out of the whole world it brings immense happiness.
Nothing can match love. Not even frendship.
Though love hurts people prefer to fall in love .
And usually freindship between a girl and a guy ends in love . Not in all cases there are exceptionals still atleast one person (either the girl or the boy) may end in love though how hard he or she may try to keep the relationship as friendship only.
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Post by petaactivist on Feb 16, 2006 18:27:23 GMT 5.5
Love is like .. cant explain.
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Post by rameshramnani on Feb 16, 2006 19:07:46 GMT 5.5
Love is the greatest power in the world.
But you have to understand again: by power I don't mean power over others. Power over others is not love; power over others is pure hate, it is poison, it is destructive.
But to me, and to anyone who knows, love itself is power -- and the greatest power, because there is nothing more creative than love. There is nothing more fulfilling than love, there is nothing more nourishing than love.
When you are in love, all fears disappear, and when you become love yourself, even death becomes irrelevant.
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Post by loyalgurl on Feb 16, 2006 19:37:10 GMT 5.5
You all are absolutely right! Thanks a lot for your responses. I agree that love is just marvellous n on the "top of the world " feeling. But the question that I asked was that whether if a guy who is in love with his best friend ( a gal) is rejected under any grounds is it fair for him to go over n end the friendship for love? It took the friendship some obvious time to nurture and love was an outcome of it. Is it still ok to leave friendship for the pain that love gave???
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Post by ANi on Feb 16, 2006 22:45:39 GMT 5.5
well loyal, frankly i believe its wrong to break the friendship just coz the gal rejected his offer.
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Post by jaan on Feb 17, 2006 10:46:05 GMT 5.5
hi...soon am getting married... we are best friends...v met...took each other as friends...in d course of time...he felt that i am d girl with whom he wants to spend his life. i was not aware of this development. coz he never expressed in words...but in several other ways he let me knew how he loves me n how he wants always to be there for me...it worked for him... he says he cud have gone his own way if i'd got married to smbdy... but his ways of expressing his feelings gave him wht he wanted... does this answers ur question loyal?
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Post by beesmile1 on Feb 17, 2006 11:12:54 GMT 5.5
I guess it is a tricky question..and depends upon where u see it from.. If u look it from the girl's side..yes it is unfair.. If u look it from the guy's side...he would be burning all the time being in the friendship.. But at the end let me say that if the friendship is stronger and if both really care for each other..they should support each other to come out of this phase. I guess..a little bit of clarity somewhere down the line also helps.
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Post by loyalgurl on Feb 17, 2006 21:40:23 GMT 5.5
Hi jaan, congrats to u first of all, and secondly u r really lucky....good luck to u in future... Hi beesmile1, i think u r right in wt u think....bt just a very very tiny bit of thought frm my end, that love never hurts or burns - it is the expectations we hav in love hurt anyone of us....isn't that true?
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Post by Ramesh on Feb 18, 2006 11:11:52 GMT 5.5
What else he could have done? How long he is to suffer for no reason and how long one can show his love when the other don't respond or understand the meaning of true love.
In my opinion he should leave at once and search for other person as friend who understand him better.
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Post by rameshramnani on Feb 18, 2006 11:17:29 GMT 5.5
Actually I am new member and I posted my reply as Guest. Sorry! for the mistake take it as my reply :
What else he could have done? How long he is to suffer for no reason and how long one can show his love when the other don't respond or understand the meaning of true love.
In my opinion he should leave at once and search for other person as friend who understand him better.
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Post by sourabh on Feb 18, 2006 12:22:26 GMT 5.5
in my opinion, friendship is more better than love, u get everything with friendship that u can get through love. love is another way of saying, "lets hav sex." once u say i love u to a girl/ boy, u cannot b friends again bcoz tht kind of relationship does not exists.
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